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Most divorced couples lack great communication skills, which makes co parenting much harder than it needs to be. Healthy communication with your ex creates a peaceful environment for your children, and also sets a great example for them that they will model when they grow up.

 

My 15 tips for better communication with your ex are

  1. Never use the kids as a go between
  2. Never argue in front of the kids
  3. Learn to pick and choose your battles
  4. Avoid being sarcastic, disrespectful, and rude
  5. Set boundaries, and stick to them
  6. Don’t bring up the past when communicating
  7. Practice empathy
  8. Treat your ex the way you want to be treated
  9. Put your children first
  10. Texting and email should be your chosen method of communication
  11. Choose your words carefully
  12. Monitor your tone
  13. Avoid topics that will trigger your ex
  14. Learn to listen
  15. Learn to compromise

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Our children get enough negativity in the outside world. At home, we need to counteract that by building them up. A healthy self esteem is so important for children to have, and it is our job as parents to help them have a positive self image. We can change their story, and teach them how to change their own. Some ideas to help are

 

  • Notice when they do something right
  • Tell them you are proud of them
  • Compliment them every day
  • Tell them they are beautiful

 

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Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse. She works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse who are beyond sick and tired of feeling broken, unfixable, and burdened by the past. She helps them let go of the pain of abuse and finally feel normal.

Her program, Beyond Surviving, has been specifically designed to change the way we think about and heal from abuse. Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used this program since 2007 to help her clients break free from the past and move on with their lives.

Rachel holds an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She provides a compassionate and challenging approach for her clients while using coaching as opposed to therapeutic models. She is also a member of San Francisco Coaches and Survivor Force CSA.

In this interview, we discuss

  • Her personal story
  • Why people don’t seek help
  • What impact a survivor’s abuse can have on their blended family
  • Her program, book, and podcast
  • Signs to look for to determine if our own child is being abused
  • And much more!

 

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It’s hard enough dealing with divorce as it is. When you have an ex who makes it harder by telling stories about you, it can seem unbearable. Especially when it results in your children or other people turning against you. Unfortunately we cannot control others or what they do, but we can learn how to cope, to save our sanity.

 

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One of the issues many stepparents face, is the inability to really love their stepchild. It’s rarely spoken of, as those who feel that way are ashamed to admit it. After tons of emails from listeners who struggle with this, it’s evident that this is an issue that people really need help with. In this show, you’ll learn how to deal with these feelings, how to determine where they are coming from, and how to understand things from your step child’s point of view. Plus some tips and ideas to work on that relationship for the benefit of the entire blended family.

 

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Intimacy is an essential part of every relationship. Parents can be so caught up with raising children, that they allow the intimacy to fall away. There are three important elements of intimacy in a romantic relationship, which are sexual, emotional, and physical. All three are important and a couple should learn how to create a balance of all three.

 

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Dr. Jennelle is a PhD Psychologist and Relationship Advisor working with individuals and couples who want to improve communication, collaboration, and harmony in their relationships. Dr. Jennelle focuses on nontraditional relationships and family structures (i.e., female same-sex couples, divorced/remarrying couples, and blended families), helping to navigate the challenges in these complex dynamics by developing skills that lead to stronger partnerships, better parenting, and greater peace.

She joins me on the show to discuss

  • Her personal story
  • How can a new couple work on their relationship in a blended family
  • How can a long term couple work on their relationship in a blended family
  • What to do when family members don’t get along
  • How to not allow family relationships to come between your partnership
  • How can a couple not allow an ex to damage their current relationship
  • Exercise and tips to nurture your relationship
  • What Jennelle has to offer
  • The Big Change of Heart Podcast

 

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Maintaining a good attitude in a blended family is something that is difficult, but not impossible. Bad attitudes can trickle down to everyone in the family, so it’s very important to learn how to manage our own. We also need to help our children manage their attitudes. There are some way to help you lift yourself up out of a bad state of mind, such as breathing, stopping the negative self talk, or finding something to do that brings you joy. My favorite tool is the emotional scale, a tool I learned from Esther and Jerry Hicks, from the book Ask and it is Given. You find where you fall on the scale at any given moment, and you try to gradually climb higher. Below is the scale for your use.  I’ll also talk about some tips that will help you deal with others who are having bad attitudes around you, so that you can remain peaceful.

 

  1. Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation/Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  11. Overwhelment
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred/Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

 

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This show, I’ll share with you what’s been going on in my life, and why parenting hurts for me right now.

 

Also, a fabulous family interview with Alex Thompson, who seems to know some tips on how to successfully manage a blended family!

 

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Casey O’Roarty is a wife, mother, Certified Positive Discipline Trainer and ICF Certified Coach.   Casey facilitates parents in how to build stronger, more authentic relationships with themselves and the children in their lives. She encourages grown ups to recognize and embrace the challenges of parenting as opportunities to model, teach and practice the skills we want our children to learn to embody. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband, 13 year old daughter and 11 year old son.

 

In this interview we discuss

  • Her personal story
  • Her Joyful Courage podcast
  • Challenges of parents she works with
  • What is positive discipline and how does it work
  • Family meetings
  • Discipline and blended families
  • Mindfulness
  • How to work with Casey
  • And much more

 

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